I ask: Can a man have a successful career and be a full time dad? Of course! Then so can a mum!
That may sound like a quick answer without much though, but getting down to the real deal we all know building a career and being a full time mum is one of the toughest things to do. It is even worse if you are a single mum or you have a husband whose job makes it look like he does not live in the same town with you. Here is one mums account:
Oh yea! A mum is gotta do what a mum is gotta do right?
So if you are wondering if it indeed possible to build a successful career and be a full time mum, the answer is YES. But, you have to become an expert at juggling both. Here are some tips to help you succeed:
First you must redefine what success means to you at this time, a lot must have changed since your bundle of joy came into the picture. Be very realistic about your expectations and you will find that the whole process will begin to look doable.
Draw strength from people who have gone before you; your mother, your mentor, your boss, a senior colleague etc. A lot of people have shared stories of how their mums worked so hard to make their lives so much better. You want your children to be as proud of you as you are proud of your mum. And you also want them to know firsthand the benefits of having a mother who earns her own money and has her own achievements, so you better get on with your work.
A supportive spouse who is also an involved parent is essential to balancing work and family successfully, and it is the best gift any career woman can get! Seek help and support so you are not stressed out, particularly if you are the main source of financial support for your family.
You could consider a few more things here and there to make the journey a lot smoother – flexibility, a sense of humour, and lots of prayers. Out-source of some of your chores, adopt online shopping and delivery services, keep a well stocked freezer and pantry and other useful gadgets. It takes a lot effort and planning to keep it all coordinated.
If you find that managing your career and your toddlers is rather too challenging whereby your work, health and family suffer so much, you may chosen to get off the fast track temporarily until when your kids are a bit independent. But take time to think through to be sure that is what you really want to do. Other options you could consider are a less demanding job and starting a business, they may not be any easier but will give you the flexibility you need.
Motherhood in itself is a CAREER! Just like life’s other challenges, juggling work and family is a PUSH-AND-PULL affair! And here we are doing it and excelling in it. I salute all working mums!
Love & respect always.